"We may need to bear the brunt of the bad for the good to take hold... the acknowledgment that curing ourselves of the addiction lies beyond our powers. To his way of thinking, the law "teaches us that there is a disease," part of that disease being the resistance we have to acknowledging it. He'd be a lot easier to deal with, let alone love, if he would allow himself to be helped. ...the most common lie we tell ourselves: that we are in control, that there is no inner conflict or, if there is one, that our ego is winning." P83/84 Doubleness