“Wishing your opponent will finally see the light is a fool's errand. It will only lead to heartbreak. Counting up the other side's wrongs is a hobby that can last a lifetime. Obsessing over the next election is a delay tactic. Telling people to reject hate and choose love will not work. Because people swept up in high conflict do not think of themselves as full of hate, even if they are. They think of themselves as right.”